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Someone I love is struggling. Is there anything for me?

If you love someone who’s struggling, you need support too.

Partners, parents, brothers, sisters and friends. Whether it’s their drinking, cocaine, pills or something else, Be Again gives you your own space, whether or not they’re ready to talk.

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You don’t need their permission to get support for yourself. They won’t know you’re here unless you tell them.

You might start with something like this.

Most help is built around the person who drinks or uses. Be Again treats you as someone who needs support in your own right. Tap a line to try it.

Your week, with Be Again.

The worry doesn’t keep office hours. Here’s how it can help across a week, for you.

  1. A mother types a careful message at her kitchen counter in the morning

    Hard momentMonday, 7:30am

    The morning after the row.

    I said things last night I regret.
    That happens when you’re frightened. Want to work out what you’d like to say today, now you’re calmer?

    No judgement for you either.

  2. Good dayTuesday, 8:15pm

    A boundary that held.

    Told him I won’t lend money any more. Felt awful, but I did it.
    That took courage. How are you doing now it’s said?

    Help with lines you can hold without feeling cruel.

  3. A man in a dressing gown waits up on the stairs at night, lit by his phone

    Hard momentWednesday, 1:05am

    Finding the words.

    My partner’s not answered all night. I want to tell him exactly what I think.
    That makes sense. Can I suggest something short for tonight, and save the rest for when you’re both calmer?

    Drafted togetherLove you. I’m not angry. I’d just like to know you’re safe. Text me when you’re up.

  4. A father and his adult son sit on a park bench in autumn with coffees

    Good daySaturday, 11:00am

    A walk, and a real talk.

    Coffee in the park with my son. We actually talked.
    That sounds like it mattered. What made it feel possible today?

    It notices what helps between you, too.

  5. Hard momentSaturday, 10:40pm

    “Am I overreacting?”

    I think she’s using cocaine at weekends. How would I even know?
    It’s a fair thing to wonder. Can I ask what you’ve noticed? Then I’ll tell you what’s worth knowing.

    Plain answers about what’s going on, and what help looks like.

  6. A dad in a beanie pushes his laughing daughter on a swing on a frosty, sunny morning

    Good daySunday, 9:30am

    A morning that was just ours.

    Took Ellie to the park. Didn’t check my phone once.
    Good. You’re allowed mornings that are just yours.

    Your own wellbeing counts too.

What it helps with

  1. Finding the words

    Help drafting the message you’re scared to send, so it says what you mean without starting a row.

  2. Boundaries you can keep

    Working out where your lines are, and how to hold them without feeling cruel.

  3. The waiting and the worry

    For the nights you’re waiting up and can’t switch off. Somewhere to put it, any hour.

  4. Looking after you

    Your own wellbeing matters too. Be Again keeps your situation in mind, as well as theirs.

  5. Understanding what’s going on

    Plain answers about addiction, withdrawal and what treatment actually involves.

  6. When they’re ready

    How to support someone into help, and what the options are, including NHS and charity services.

Linking and the Family plan

If they invite you, here’s what you’ll see.

If the person you’re worried about links with you, you’ll only ever see what they’ve chosen to share. Linking works on any plan. On the Family plan, up to four people share one plan and everyone gets Premium, with their own private conversations.

MYouSam’s mum
SSamIn recovery
JJoSam’s partner
LLiamSam’s brother
  • Nothing is shared unless Sam agreed to it
  • Urgent means signs Sam may be at risk, and you’ll be told what you can do
  • You can’t read Sam’s conversations, and Sam can’t read yours
Linked with Sam
Sam chose what you see
What I’ll see
Check-ins Sam completesShared
Milestones Sam choosesShared
Sam’s conversationsNever
If Sam might be at risk
Sam may be having a hard time tonightSam asked Be Again to let you know. A call or a text from you might help. It won’t spot every hard moment.

Sam can change any of this. You’ll be told if something stops being shared.

Talk it through now.

This chat is set up for you, not the person you’re worried about. Tell it what’s happening. Nothing here is saved.

  • Set up for loved ones, so it starts from your side of things.
  • Nothing is saved, and nobody is told you were here.
  • It stays with you. If someone might be in danger, it helps you get help to them and keeps talking while you do.

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The first 1,000 get Be Again Family free, for life.

Premium for you and up to three people you choose. An email is all it takes: no card, nothing to cancel.

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